Loving an addict
This isn’t what you imagined
Since you’re here, it tells me that you are looking for answers to make sense of the chaos and confusion that is difficult to explain to your friends and family. You never thought you’d be fighting more than “loving” and enjoying each other’s company. You used to look forward to spending time together and had dreams of building a life with one another. Now each “conversation” becomes an argument with tears, yelling, and ultimatums; each interaction leaves you feeling hurt and overwhelmed. You’re physically and emotionally exhausted.
Is loving someone supposed to be this way?
You told yourself you were not going to be the nagging spouse or the parent who yells and complains, or a pushover sibling who just gives in to make the arguments stop. My clients just want to be happy and feel connected with their loved ones. Many of my clients come to me because they are at their wit’s end having used everything they know how to make things better.
Struggling to have a happy relationship
My goal is for you to get the tools you need to cope and heal from the negative effects of your family or friend’s addiction. We will work together to help you work through the things holding you back from the relationship and connection you want to have.
Therapy is not:
- Me giving you a bunch of homework
- Me judging you or your loved one
- Me giving you all the answers in one session and you live happily ever after
Our initial session together will be spent on me learning about the things that are preventing you from feeling your best, from feeling unsatisfied or feeling disconnected in your relationship. I will listen for how you want things to be different or better, to serve as a road map for our work together.
I get excited working with clients who are tired of being tired; who want healthy and supportive relationships with their loved ones and who are afraid but are ready to do the work. This is usually when deep work is likely to happen. Some days are going to be hard and some days you may feel like quitting, especially in the beginning. I want you to know, that is normal. Not all days will be like that… If you are ready to “dig in,” I want to help you thrive.
